Ari-chan

So, I thought for a change, what’s with all this cryptic messages coming from everywhere? Saying one thing but trying to say something totally different.

1. I say No but I mean Yes

Ok, I’ve met a lot of situations like this one, and did the same thing dozens of times. But I’m not gonna talk about the “You’re right, we should do this” but he/she actually wants to situation, because you can read about this in million of places. I’m gonna talk about something else.

For example, what does it mean that your friend is angry at you? Although he/she might not actually notice himself (ok, so you can fill in the “herself” part cause its tiring), but most of the times people get angry at others because they actually want more attention. More love, friendship etc. It’s not about having different opinions, it’s about no showing that you care for their opinion or just care for them. Being angry is a very good way of getting attention, but if the other one isn’t very perceptive, things might not go the right way.

On the other hand, being mad at someone might also show that you have been hurt. And this case need more than attention, it needs apologies and insurance that he won’t do that again. “I hate you” shows not actual hate, but a lot of hurtfulness… also, try to be tolerant. If your friend really does tell you he is mad at you and hangs up the phone, call him back. Run after him if he storms out of the building. Hit it while it’s warm, and red… don’t let anger cool off because it might leave some nasty marks.

2. The difference between man and woman

Man has this interesting thing called pride. He can get hurt because of it, or he can not act when someone is hurt because of it. But in my opinion, if someone can’t step on his “manly” pride for a friend, that just means he doesn’t care enough. The are no good excuses for not being sensitive.

Women, in my opinion, are much better at social skills. Of course, they usually expect much more out of relationships (of whatever kind) than men, but I think that’s good. Just don’t forget that women also rarely show their problems in other ways than the subtle ones. Careful analysis is needed.

So, I guess that wraps it up for today. Yep, nothing makes sense, but hey, at least I try. That, I hope, is at least commendable.